One of the most difficult things to deal with in this life, in my opinion, is the feeling of lonliness. In my experience, when it hits, it hits hard. How is a person supposed to combat that? Everything is going fine and then all of a sudden, whop! Smacked in the face with the lonliest feeling ever.
What contributes to these feelings? Is it the lack of friendship? The lack of a relationship or a significant other? The lack of relationship with God? I’m sure all of these play a part, but why does it happen so often? What is it, really?
Could it be that we come to the realization that no one really knows us, for whatever reason, and that’s what we ultimately desire in this life? To be known, understood, and loved regardless?
I don’t know about anyone else, but the feeling of someone wanting to be with you and really actively attempting to get to know you is something that doesn’t happen often, but when it does, fills my heart with overwhelming joy. I don’t know that there’s a greater feeling in all the world than that. Don’t get me wrong, a back massage in a comfy bed is pretty close, but still..
We are social beings after all, especially in this day and age where everything is ruled by social media, which in turn has turned the world into an incredibly narcissistic place. Everyone is concerned about how many likes and follows they get instead of what really matters, and that is to leave the world a better place than you found it.
“And how do we do that?” You might ask. Well, I’ll tell you how. Take down your walls and put your heart out there for everyone to see. If there is one thing that I’ve learned during my 28 years of existence, it’s that people get hurt every single day but they continue to bounce back. The heart is so intelligently designed. It was designed to be incredibly resilient (Thanks, God!). The heart can take just about anything that’s thrown at it, and with a little can-do attitude and hard work, turn something bad into something great.
People used to know that. People used to care for one another. They used to love each other without fear. How sad is it that we as a society fear love? It’s insane. Especially because deep down, and I don’t care who you are or how “tough” you are, everyone wants to be loved. And I don’t mean in the popular social media kind of way. I’m talking about an intimate love.
God wants that relationship with all of us, but the world has a pretty good way of making us forget that. That’s where we’re supposed to start though, with God. With the Creator.
Of course it’s hard. I struggle with it too. I constantly make mistakes. Sometimes I think it would be easier if He hadn’t given us free will to do as we please. But isn’t that true, true love? Allowing His creation to do as they wish, knowing they will defy, turn against, and disappoint Him, but still allowing free will and loving each of us unconditionally? I mean, c’mon guys! God sent Jesus to die on a cross for a bunch of sinners. Jesus knew what was about to happen, and get this…HE DID IT ANYWAY BECAUSE HE LOVES US UNCONDITIONALLY.
So if you’re like me, searching for something but aren’t quite sure what it is that you’re searching for, you probably ought to start with seeking out God. I know that’s what I need. I’ve got to start doing more and more of exactly that.
I know for a fact that once we find that love, the love God has for us, that lonliness subsides. We are set free from that awful strangulation of the heart and can breathe again.
Love… love heals all